per·cep·tion/pərˈsepSHən/
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Isn't it interesting how we perceive external stimuli differently depending on the mood or the current state of life
we're in?
Take for
example: Oh let's say, Subject A moves to a foreign country with his wife, only
to have his marriage and life fall to pieces around him.
Okay you
guessed it. I'm Subject A (Feeling more like Subject F at the moment).
The point is, everything I do and almost every piece of stimuli seems to take on a new, deeper, meaning. The surfing lesson I wrote about the other day could easily become a metaphor for love and marriage. In fact, I spent an hour yesterday writing about their similarities. I've decided not to share it, because frankly, it came off a little cheeseball. but here are a couple highlights:
...I had no clue how to get up on the board. I lay on
it shaking from side to side, the deep, churning water threatening to pull me
under. But I knew the reward far outweighed the fear and risk...
...But, no longer able to keep balance, I plummeted head first into the murky waters. Struggling to reach the surface, I knew, I hoped, was there...
...In my
heart I wanted so bad to go back for the board. But looking at it from a
distance I realized the board was not meant for these seas. Cracked and warped,
it would never glide across the waves the same again...
- See what I mean. CHEESEBALL.
But in writing that 'fromage' I started to gain some perspective, and a control, over my perception.
Instead of looking at everything as a sad sign of 'love lost'. I am going to look at everything as a sign of 'life gained'.
Here's a great poem I saw on the cafe I was sitting in yesterday. I think I'll follow its advice:
Desiderata
Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and ignorant; they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be critical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy.
© Max Ehrmann 1927
Be Good To Yourself,
Jimmy
